Jackson was ready. He had a new suit, a resume which incorporated revisions based on feedback from several friends in the field, and even a job coach to help him prepare for upcoming interviews. He was polished, professional, and prepared.
Yet time and time again he was passed over for what prospective employers referred to as “candidates who more closely fit the requirements for the position.”
This just didn’t make sense. In many cases, he fit the job descriptions like a glove, and left most of his interviews with a sense of resounding success. Jackson seemed to have been placed on the equivalent of a no-fly list for new jobs.
What's the deal?
Sometimes despite our best efforts to prepare our outer world for a desired change, like Jackson, we still find that change elusive.
We can’t figure it out. We did everything we were supposed to do to prepare, followed the rules exactly, behaved admirably, yet nothing comes of it.
It can be disheartening to experience, especially when it makes no sense. After all of our hard work, don’t we deserve to be rewarded with success?
There are all kinds of reasons a change we desire might not come to fruition, many of them based upon external factors that are outside of our control:
No space for change.
But what if the reason change efforts fail is because we haven’t sufficiently made room for them? If a change doesn’t have the space it needs to take hold, then it more than likely won’t.
This might seem like a somewhat radical approach, but bear with me. Let’s say, for instance, that the reason Jackson was looking for a new job was because he was highly dissatisfied with his current one. He disliked his boss, and felt that he was being treated unfairly.
And let’s say that his current job was one of a history of jobs Jackson sought to leave because of his dissatisfaction. And let’s also say that the jobs to which Jackson applied weren’t necessarily the ones he truly desired, but were more based on opportunities. There were current openings in his field, he wanted to leave his current position, so he applied.
Too much baggage.
But what is rarely mentioned is the baggage Jackson, and many others like him, carry with them when pursuing new opportunities.
In Jackson's example we are looking at the change of a new job, but this concept can apply to any change, from weight loss, to purchasing a home, and so on.
The point is that when we carry around baggage from our past experiences, they influence our perceptions, beliefs and behavior, usually showing up in subtle ways through our demeanor, without our even realizing it.
But other people, also in subtle ways of which they're usually unaware, are influenced by this. In the case of a job interview, the interviewer may have decided on a candidate who just felt like a better fit, even if their backgrounds and interview responses were pretty much the same as Jackson's (or ours).
In essence, Jackson’s carry-on baggage was too big to fit the prospective employer’s overhead compartment, and he wasn't prepared to check it, so he missed his opportunity to fly.
Elements for creating space for change.
Our theme of creating space for change will involve three elements; a sort of mind, body, spirit approach. But beware of making premature assumptions as these probably won’t involve what you think!
If our inner activities are focused on making space for our change in a way that aligns with our external activities, we have a much greater chance of success than when we remain hyper-focused on our outer world, disregarding what we have stored inside.
Tomorrow we'll dig into the art of decluttering (and this isn't just a physical thing). I hope you join us as we embark on this exciting journey of creating space for change!
PS: In an effort to create my own space for preparing some business-related changes and improvements, this and future themes will include five posts spanning a two-week period.
About the Author
Megan Rounds, Ed.D. is owner and principle perculator of perculcha, llc.
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