Change is a constant. And that means that we, too, are always changing. Often times, however, we resist certain changes, and because of that, our motion during change can be awkward, uncomfortable and difficult.
Perhaps the change is one we never wanted, or maybe we asked for it only to find it wasn’t what we thought it would be, or our interests have since evolved toward a different path.
Getting change to stick in a non-linear world.
Change, you see, isn’t linear. And how easily and quickly we adapt can vary between different changes, and also between different parts of the same change.
Sometimes this creates tension and friction between our outer expectations based on external factors, such as societal norms, and our inner beliefs and desires, which may be entirely different.
But many of our beliefs and desires are hidden. It is only when we tap into those, and align our inner and outer interests, that our changes have the chance to truly stick.
This week’s theme on Creating Space For Change offered some suggestions and insights into different areas we can more effectively prepare for change in general, whether it is a change that’s already happened, is one we welcomed, or is one that we desire.
The initial approach to the theme was to focus on mind, body and spirit, with a fusion of physical, tangible activities and internal, mental/emotional intention.
Tuning Out & Tuning In.
Today I’m going to pull it all together in a slightly different manner in an approach I refer to as Tuning Out and Tuning In.
While the words and even the phrase may be familiar to many, please do not assume we will use it today in the same manner. For clarity purposes, here are my definitions:
These are then transferred to our inner world and deciphered to find our own hidden meaning, messages and desires. Doing this requires deep listening to ourselves, both physically and emotionally.
Finding the hidden dynamics.
Tuning Out and Tuning In are not necessarily exclusive of one another (we can tune in to our environment while also noticing physical or emotional changes in ourselves, for example).
While sometimes we are intentional in Tuning In to a sound (Tuning Out a crowd to Tune In on what a friend is saying), we are also quite unintentional with them too.
For example, when we are regularly enticed by educational opportunities, especially on specific topics, we are Tuning Out by expanding our experiential horizons. We are in learning mode.
But it is by Tuning In to ourselves that we are able to discover what it is we are really searching for. Perhaps we are trying to shore up what we perceive to be certain weaknesses, based on certain perfectionist tendencies (not good enough).
Or maybe it’s the sense of community and belonging that having shared experiences with others interested in the same topic brings, because those things are lacking elsewhere in our lives.
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Tuning into our own dance of change.
The beauty of this approach is that we can use it to be more intentional about what and how we prepare ourselves for an upcoming change, or as a way to uncover some of our deeper interests in order to initiate a change.
We can also, however, identify our current practices and whether or not we feel balanced between the two.
If we are frequently Tuning In to our external environment, but with little intention behind it, we can spend a lot of time, often without even realizing it, seeking and searching for something.
But until we also Tune In within ourselves, it’s likely we’ll continue in seek and search mode without any real sense of satisfaction.
On the other hand, if we are always Tuning Out by decluttering and purging ourselves of excess stuff, but we do it without also Tuning Out internally by setting boundaries and aligning our physical actions with our deeper intentions, we are probably going to eventually feel like a hamster spinning in its wheel. We’ll just continue to go through the motions without any real sense of progress.
Creating space for change can be a wonderful experience, in both our inner and outer worlds, if we allow it to be.
Too often we go through the motions without truly sensing or experiencing the beauty and meaning behind those things, without intentionally carving out time to pull those things into ourselves to understand the meaning our outer experiences hold for us personally.
I encourage you to take a moment today or at some time in the near future to:
Thoughts? Suggestions? Ideas? Please share!
I’d love to hear what you discover, along with any ideas or suggestions for future change-related topics. Please send a note or post a message below.
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About the Author
Megan Rounds, Ed.D. is owner and principle perculator of perculcha, llc.
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