Congratulations! We've made the decision to change.
Regardless of whether we put a lot of thought into our choice before reaching our decision, or opted instead for an intuitive or impulsive approach, as the change event gets closer, it's likely that we will have invested time and energy contemplating the change.
That time between choosing the change, and experiencing the actual change event, is what I refer to as the transition.
There is a lot we can do during this transition period to help our change go smoothly. Today I’ll introduce you to two rather out-of-the-box approaches; one is more general in nature and can help us prepare for any change, while the other offers a more specific approach to help us to become more closely attuned to our desired change.
Shake it up.
Sometimes the most difficult part of any change, whether intended or not, is the disruption it can create to our regular routines and habits.
One way to pre-empt this disruption is to intentionally shake things up and force ourselves out of our comfort zones. There are unlimited options for doing this, but here are a few examples to get the ball rolling:
Fake it til you make it.
On the surface, it might seem insincere or inauthentic to fake it til we make it. But when we desire a change but it hasn’t yet happened (like a new job, or some other opportunity), then doing all we can to align with our intended change will open us up to it in ways than just sitting around waiting for it to happen won’t.
There is a lot that goes on behind the scenes when we desire a change, and when we put most of our efforts into hoping, as time passes, these hopes can transpire into urgency. And urgency has a nasty habit of pushing away those things we desire the most.
But by taking action toward our desired change, we put ourselves closer to that reality, which helps us to transform our thinking from one of wishing and hoping, to that of doing and being. We ultimately become one with our change, in order to see the change.
Here’s an example of how this works:
Rosie recently made the decision to pursue a full-time job after 5 years of working independently. While she enjoyed the flexibility and autonomy working for herself provided, she missed the predictability and consistency of a regular paycheck, and the camaraderie and synergy having coworkers offered.
Rosie knew that if she wanted to find a job, she would have to take action and get herself out there.
So she went through the regular actions of someone looking for work, preparing a resume and template cover letter, researching and applying for those jobs that sounded interesting and for which she felt she was qualified and suited, and even practicing some responses to potential interview questions.
Aligning our actions.
Rosie then took things one step further. Realizing that she would probably have to change some of her current routines once she found a job, Rosie decided to make those changes right away.
Rosie reasoned that this way she would have less of an adjustment to make when the time came. But doing these things sooner than later provided another benefit; they helped to also shift her mindset. Because she required more structure than she had a present, Rosie's adjustments helped her to pre-adapt to her change, which also created a closer alignment with her desire of having a full-time job.
Here’s what Rosie did:
Incorporating these changes into her schedule as she applied and interviewed for jobs helped Rosie to think as though she were already employed. This gave her more confidence in herself as she applied and interviewed.
Making the shift to an employee from an independent work environment required many adjustments in both Rosie's work and life styles.
By making these changes before there was an actual need, Rosie's perceptions became more structured and organized in ways that weren’t as crucial in her independent work life.
These changes in perceptions helped Rosie to believe she was ready for, and would succeed in, full-time employment, creating space for this change before it actually occurred.
So far in this theme of Creating Space For Change, we’ve looked at ways to concurrently declutter our physical and mental/emotional space, and how to take action to attract change.
Coming up next we’ll explore ways that listening to ourselves can help us to reduce inner distortion and create a clearer path to successful change.
About the Author
Megan Rounds, Ed.D. is owner and principle perculator of perculcha, llc.
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