I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the differences between individual change, a change that we alone are undertaking, and collective change, where multiple people actively participate.
More on these differences will be presented at a later date, when I write about dichotomies within change, but for this week, I’d like us to explore how other people can affect our personal change efforts.
Does change in isolation actually exist?
We make individual choices and decisions about our lives all the time in relation to our health, careers, relationships, future, and so on.
Some of these decisions have no effect on other people, and so we make the decision and move on with our lives. If we are living by ourselves, far away from or uncommunicative with our relatives, with no close friends, then we can do whatever we want, when we want, with no resistance or interference from others.
Most of us, however, have at least some friends and connection to our relatives. Some of us have families of our own, as well as colleagues, and active involvement with various groups, whether for church, school, our profession or hobbies and special interests.
In these situations, when we decide to make a personal change, even if it feels like it is our choice to make, the subtle or more drastic behaviors that are required as we transition to the change more often than not ripple out to those around us.
Sometimes our circle welcomes and embraces these new behaviors, and sometimes they don’t.
When those who seem with us are acting against us.
This week’s theme will focus on how our personal and social circles can influence our attempts at personal changes, and what we can do to keep ourselves on track when others overtly or covertly resist our change.
We’ll explore some of the behaviors we might encounter and why friends and family we expected would welcome our decision to change, seem to be trying to derail it.
We’ll also take a look at some preventative measures and ideas for damage control when disruption comes despite our best efforts.
Have you seen this phenomenon? Please share!
As we venture into this theme, I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences related to when other people in some way attempted or succeeded in interfering with a personal change.
What behavior did you notice? How did it effect your attempt to transition? Was your relationship in some way altered?
I invite you to share and let's get the conversation started!
About the Author
Megan Rounds, Ed.D. is owner and principle perculator of perculcha, llc.
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