Yesterday I wrote about Archie and Daphne, team mates experiencing the same uncertainty around change but reacted very differently to it. Today let's look at what to do when such a situation presents itself. Keep in mind that these reactions aren't limited to the workplace, they can just as easily happen anywhere with anyone, including personal relationships and/or at home.
What's really going on here?
Unite, then divide.
Even though understanding the emotional elements behind each reaction would be helpful for Archie and Daphne at a personal level, for their work together as a team, recognizing and accepting that their differences are okay and can be leveraged in a way that unites, rather than separates them as a team, is really the most important thing.
The Busy Bee has the energy to do, and the person Stuck In The Mud has the ability to wait. Having a conversation about what makes sense to do right now, and what things can wait until there is more clarity, is a good starting point.
Making room for the Busy Bee to handle whatever the team decides is urgent in order to gain clarity, lets that person stay focused on those things that will likely yield the greatest results. Meanwhile, the person who might otherwise feel stuck can do those things that might not be urgent, but are still required to maintain the day-to-day operations.
Both people are taking action, which is great for Archie's need for movement, but is also good for Daphne, who otherwise runs the risk of becoming truly stuck. And this way they get to work together towards a common goal, which inspires, rather than deters, team work.
In the case of Archie, who fits nicely into the Busy Bee persona, and Daphne, who has the potential for becoming Stuck In The Mud (if she's not already there), objectivity is key. Each has an emotional element anchoring their reaction, but neither have had a conversation with the other about their different responses other than to make wise-cracks and snide remarks. This form of communication highlights each person's discontent with the other's reaction style, but it does nothing to open the lines of communication to get a better understanding of what's going on.
Being a Busy Bee or Stuck In The Mud are two reactions provoked by uncertainty. But when change comes a knocking, our perceptions about the change can result in challenging dynamics as well. Stay tuned for more about these perceptions in the coming days.
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In the mean time, what are your experiences or observations about different reactions to the same situation Leave a comment and get the conversation started!
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Megan Rounds, Ed.D. is owner and principle perculator of perculcha, llc.
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