This week we touched the surface of personal change; how larger changes can affect us individually, why it matters, and how to identify our various reactions to a given situation.
One of the benefits of using a tool such as the View Finder Perspectives Model is that it helps us to more clearly identify our interests, our fears or concerns, and even some of our underlying values that likely contribute to our emotions behind a given response.
In Jessica’s case - the person in our example who was faced with a new job offer as well as a counter-offer by her current employer - some of the values that emerged and likely contributed to how she designed her plan-of-action include:
Sorting and shifting.
The View Finder Perceptions Model offers not only a way to sort through our various reactions to a given situation, it also provides us with guidance on how to shift our perceptions around the situation if/when we so desire.
For example, Jessica’s high level of resistance to her employer’s counter-offer requires specific action in order to regain the trust that was damaged through past experiences. Trust is necessary in order to overcome resistance, just as stability is required to counteract distress, and inspiration to reduce levels of indifference.
For high levels of satisfaction, the ability to remain open to concepts and ideas that run contrary to our positive view represents the flexibility required for this reaction-type.
In Jessica’s case, the structure she created in offering her current employer an opportunity to regain some trust, and her prospective employer to respond to her counter-offer, also created flexibility where it might otherwise not have existed.
She determined her course of action based on the potential responses of her current and prospective employers, thus minimizing the tendency to over-idealize one response over the other.
Getting behind the scenes of our personal reactions to change.
While a particular model and how to use it were profiled in this week’s theme, the true purpose of exploring personal reactions to change is to emphasize the importance of gaining a behind-the-scenes understanding of our reactions.
By exploring the deeper aspects of our reactions, we are better able to determine the best course of action moving forward based on our specific individual needs. This then creates a greater sense of control in situations that might otherwise leave us feeling powerless.
A final thought.
There are so many occasions in life where we have the choice of deciding the level of presence we want to commit to our experience and transition to change. Yet change, and especially transition, are often relegated to autopilot and one of those things we can put off until tomorrow. Too many things going on, other priorities, the pull of daily life all likely contribute to this.
Yet how we transition to change determines our perceptions of the change itself. If we have a rough transition because we’re ill prepared for the change, we ultimately tend to blame the change, rather than accept that we left our adaptation to the change to chance.
Whether it is the View Finder Perceptions Model or some other tool or model, I highly encourage those of us embarking on a change - especially if it’s a big one - to find something to use as a guide in the transition.
Yes, it takes effort, yes it requires some introspection, but it also offers an opportunity to learn more about ourselves in a way that expands well beyond any one change. Remaining present during our transition is a choice, and it’s a choice well worth taking.
Have a wonderful weekend, and thank you for reading!
About the Author
Megan Rounds, Ed.D. is owner and principle perculator of perculcha, llc.
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