February has historically been my least favorite month of the year. To me, there is a reason it is the shortest month, and that is because it is also the most excruciating.
Living in Minnesota, where the winters are usually long, cold and dark, February, for me, represents the wall marathon runners often experience shortly before the end of the race. Except in my case the wall is the second month of the year, and the finish line is our march into Spring, which brings forth the promise of sunnier, warmer and greener days.
This year; however, is different. Where at first I dreaded a February complete with an extra day for good measure, I have since made the conscious decision to shift the way I think about this month.
Instead of dreading it, I will embrace it in all its glory.
From Doldrums To Possibility.
Leaning into the month for me means to welcome the opportunity to do what often comes naturally at this time of year; to follow the pull of stepping back and re-evaluating aspects of my life. To recalibrate those areas that once worked, but now seem as though they are at risk of becoming misaligned.
This is different than the end of year summary and evaluation of our successes and/or shortcomings. For some reason, after a January of goal-setting and intention toward high productivity and focus, February ultimately surfaces the flaws in those plans, and a murkiness to what earlier felt like clarity.
These may not be flaws that are visible to any one else, but to me they are glaring and deep. And what a great opportunity to be able to step back and reconsider my earlier intentions to see where they still fit, and where they no longer resonate.
So I have decided to dedicate this month to recalibrating my efforts. In business as well as in life. I don’t yet know what this means exactly, but I am hopeful that what emerges will be dazzling.
For now, however, I can say that it will likely mean tweaks, adjustments or all-out changes in what I do and how I do it.
For you, my readers, this could mean less consistent posts. It could mean experiencing some different formats or approaches to content. It could mean changes in my writing style and voice. Also changes to my website and how I do business could result.
At the heart of all of these potential changes, however, one thing remains the same: My ongoing interest and dedication to helping others more smoothly adapt to changes in their lives. And if that wasn’t clear before, well, welcome to the first sprout of life from my month of recalibration.
I invite you to join me for this shift, and if there are things you like or don’t like in what I present during my changevolution, please drop me a line to let me know. I sincerely value your input.
What If? An Exercise For Your Own Recalibration.
Do you also feel the urge to recalibrate aspects of your life? If you do, here is a helpful little exercise to help you envision the possibilities. It's called What If?
This exercise is great because it promotes an expansive view on whatever we want to analyze. It releases us from the shackles of 'shoulds' and 'have tos' and allows us to consider the possibilities. From there we can hone in and make choices around what feels right for us.
Here's how it works:
1. Pick a topic to start with. I chose my work, but it can be anything from family, personal development, career, living space, whatever you want.
2. Start asking 'What If?' followed by something specific.
Here are some examples from my experience:
3. Record your responses. I used a flip chart and color markers but use whatever works best for you.
4. Allow yourself to expand beyond your original topic. To restrict yourself might hinder your ability to think expansively, so even though you started with a specific area in mind, allowing other areas to emerge can help you explore relationships between topics that might not have occurred to you before.
5. Once you're tapped out, give yourself a break. Or several. These can be over the course of a few hours or several days. Sometimes the best ideas take time to germinate.
6. Sit with and consider your responses. What surprised you? What brought joy and delight when considering the possibilities? These are the areas to explore further.
If there were areas that felt heavy or dull and depressing, and they are a part of your current reality, put those on your list for recalibrating, and perform additional 'What If's' if necessary. Also give yourself permission to decommission those things all together. What if they weren't a part of your life any more?
This is the short and sweet of this exercise, but if you give it a try and have questions or feel stuck or unsure how to move forward, please send me a message and let me know. I'm happy to help.
Have fun, thanks for reading, and stay tuned for new and exciting things in the future!
About the Author
Megan Rounds, Ed.D. is owner and principle perculator of perculcha, llc.
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